Your friends know more about your life

Interesting thought. http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/oliver-burkeman-column/2015/jan/27/your-friends-know-more-about-your-life-than-you-do-including-when-you-might-die It says we are actually bad judges of our own character traits. Our friends know us better. So when it comes to what we know of ourselves or what’s best for us, it’s best to ask the advice of our friends. I don’t know. Sometimes I think other people’s opinions can cloud…

No one saves us but ourselves

“No one saves us but ourselves. We alone must walk the path” the Buddha It so brutal in it’s honesty and scary. I really don’t think I’m qualified to save myself. I don’t even think I’m qualified to be an adult but that’s another matter altogether.  Surely, there must be a clause that if you…

Yes, I hate to salsa

I’m a serial dabbler. I’ve tried out many, many things. I’ve dabbled in pottery, learnt to play the guitar, I took up salsa, flower decorating, etc. I always entertain the most idealistic thoughts when I first start these activities – I’ll do salsa and I’ll discover that I’m a great dancer and I’ll travel the…

You can’t leap if the trampoline is broken

I remember telling a good friend of mine that I was thinking of quitting my job. This was some months back and he was like, “Shobs, you really like to live on the edge, don’t you? You are just settled in your flat and now you need a new challenge.” That really stopped me in…

The correct questions

Do you guys remember this episode of X-Files? The usual “truth is out there” title was replaced by these three words. It was all my friends and I could talk about the next day at school. I had never heard of these words before (with the exception of deceive) but I remember loving the sound…

Article #1 I wrote

Good read for those who are in the painful period of trying to make a decision. 4 Steps To Become More Decisive

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Decision-making tool I: The Law of Percentages

Making a Big Life Decision usually involves lots of uncertainty and as a result, there’s a high chance you will get paralysed resulting in you not taking any action. This tool helps to clarify the situation but forcing you to assign a percentage probability to each fear, outcome, thought or action surrounding situation.  Example 1: …

My BIG LIFE DECISIONS rule

We make decisions all the time. Salad or Nandos for lunch? MacBook Air or MacBook Pro? Chicken or fish for dinner? But BIG LIFE DECISIONS (BLDs) are a bit different: They usually impact heavily on one of the big three life stabilizers (work, relationships, home) Often means saying goodbye to life as you currently know –…